THE INKWELL SOUL

Tag: #storm

  • The Glass Partition

    “The tension between needing solitude and wanting to be seen is like standing behind a one-way mirror: I feel protected because I can see out but no one can see in, yet I find myself pressing my palm against the glass, hoping someone notices the smudge I left behind.”

    It is the “Solitude Paradox” – the fear that being known will ruin your peace, combined with the fear that staying hidden will eventually erase you.

    I am the architect of my own island, I’ve dredged the sand and raised the cliffs until the horizon is nothing but my own reflection. There is a profound mercy in this distance; no one can misread my silence here, no one can clumsy-foot through the garden of my grief. Here, I am the Queen of a quiet country, uninterrupted, unburdened, and untouched.

    But the walls that keep the storm out also keep the warmth from coming in.

    I sit by the window of my own making, watching the world move in blurred streaks of color, and a treacherous thought begins to bloom: Does anyone see the light left on in this room? I want to be discovered, but I don’t want to be hunted. I want someone to find the secret door, but I’m terrified of what happens when the hinges creak open and the dust of my decades is exposed to the air.

    It is an exhausting dance – to pull the blanket of anonymity over my head while secretly praying someone notices the shape I make beneath the covers. I want to be “seen” without having to explain, to be understood without the autopsy of conversation. I am waiting for a ghost who speaks my language, someone who knows that when I say “I need to be alone,” what I am really saying is, “Please stay close enough to hear me if I change my mind.”

    Bravely, I am admitting I want to be “found” while I am actively hiding. It is not a contradiction; it’s a search for a very specific kind of safety – the safety of being truly known by someone who won’t try to “fix” the solitude out of me.

  • Embracing the Buffalo: Strength in the Storm

    The cancer journey often feels like being caught in an endless storm – a relentless blizzard of appointments, tough treatments, and emotional turbulence. It’s natural, even human, to want to hunker down, turn away, or simply endure the cold and wait for it to pass.

    But a new friend Craig G. offered a different, more powerful path: the path of the buffalo.

    He sent me the message: “The Buffalo is the only animal that does not hunker down to ride out a storm or endure a blizzard. It walks or runs straight into a storm. Just like charging headlong into a cancer diagnosis and treatment. Be the Buffalo!”

    This image of the magnificent creature, head lowered and deliberately walking or running straight into the heart of the storm, is a striking metaphor for how I now choose to meet this challenge. Craig’s analogy reminds me that the buffalo’s strategy is one of pure, forward-moving efficiency. By charging directly toward the storm’s center, they pass through if faster, minimizing the time they spend exposed to the worst of the elements. They know the quickest way to the calm on the other side is a direct line.

    My Commitment to Be the Buffalo

    To “Be the buffalo” in my cancer journey is to harness this unique, fierce strength. It’s not about ignoring the fear or pretending this isn’t difficult; it’s about accepting the diagnosis and treatment as my current reality and choosing forward motion through it.

    *Acknowledge and Advance: Instead of feeling paralyzed, I am choosing to walk straight into the treatment plan, the tough conversations, and the emotional work required. This is me lowering my head and taking the first step.

    *Efficiency in Courage: Every challenging appointment, every difficult recovery day is a step through the storm. By meeting these challenges head-on, I am actively moving toward the finish line, refusing to be stalled by fear or avoidance.

    *Focus on the Goal: The buffalo’s goal isn’t to fight the storm itself – it’s to reach the clear, sunny pasture that lies beyond. My goal is the healthy, peaceful future I am fighting for. Keeping my eyes focused on that “calm after the storm” gives me the purpose to push through the present difficulty.

    I am pulling on the power of this buffalo image that Craig shared. It reminds me that the fastest, most courageous way through this difficult time is straight ahead. I have already taken the first steps, and with every subsequent one, I am proving that I possess that unwavering incredible strength.